Some Guy's Diary Entry # 2: Why is it so hard to find Mr.Right?

Sat Feb 9, 2008
10:58 AM GMT

Why is so hard to find Mr. Right?

The other day I was reading this forum about marriage and relationships a thread named “Why is so hard to find Mr. Right?”. There, a bunch of ladies discussed how to meet Mr. Right candidates.

Participant A explained how she refused two seemingly Mr. Right candidates when she found out they were suggesting sex on the first or second dates.

Participant B went on describing why Mr. Right was so hard to find because to qualify for Mr. Right he must be a 6-figures salary, be independent, have a great personality, great family, and everything in common with the “Mr. Right seeker”, so she sets for “Mr. Good enough” instead.

And people wonder why the divorce rate is over 50% in America, this gold digger will have to settle for roast beef when she really wanted prime rib. I bet her mark, I mean future husband has no idea he will robbed blind in the future because he doesn't make enough money to deserve her.

Participant C lowered the requirements a knot. She was in love with “Mr. Alright for now”…it seemed to me she was open for a trade-up as soon as “Mr. Better than alright” comes along. She described her current guy as someone of good moral values (as in “too ugly to cheat on me”.


Finally, participant D gave tips about where to find Mr. Right (golf and other social clubs). In the best Hollywood style she explained that it matter little whether she liked golf or not, the point was in being there and wear her best hunting cap…

Fake it 'til you make it off with some poor schmoes hard earned cash.

There were other participants, with comments ranging from “made me smile” to “she can not be THAT stupid” but not once they really pinpoint the real issue here.

We can all agree that Mr. Right does not really need to have a 6-digits salary, and women these days will also oversee some physical flaws (like being a bit chubby or not so tall) in order to get the crown jewels of the package: Loyal, family oriented, career focused, clean, romantic…you know what I mean.


So, why is so hard for a man to be loyal or romantic? Actually, is quite simple. In fact, let me tell you I can build Mr. Right out of any man. Absolutely any man can wake up in the morning and decide to be Mr. Right. In fact, the magic word to make Mr. Right out of any man is COMMITMENT.

So why they don’t commit? THAT is the question no one seemed to care about on that forum. Worry no more, dear children, because yours truly has the answer to that question.

We don’t commit (notice I added myself to the group) because I am yet to hear a solid reason to do otherwise. Whenever I ask Lori to give me reasons to consider commitment over random sex with different women she tells me that women in a committed relationship will stick to the man in his ups and downs, provide safe and exciting sex (because they know each other and what each other likes), true love and financial support.

My rebuke is as follows:


- I have being in ups and downs, alone. I have being quite wealthy, and also quite poor, and I passed all these times alone. Just because losers need someone to help them out of the dirt does not mean I do. I clean my own shit, thanks for asking.

- Safe sex can perfectly be done with casual partners. I get the feeling people mistake the words “casual sex” with “sex with a crack head”. I have casual sex with friends, one night stands here and there, clients (yeah, clients), you name it. I always wear rubber and I perform my blood tests every 6 months (when not in a relationship) or 1 year (when I have a permanent girlfriend). I have being with over 100 women and I never catch a single sexual disease…so the safe sex reason, while well founded, is quite meaningless for me.

- Exciting sex: Well, recent studies have discovered that humans have the ability to speak, and thus describe their sexual preferences. While I reckon I have eaten a few rotten apples here and there, but most of my sexual encounters have been most satisfying. There is a catch to this statement, and is that I am not too kinky a man and as long as you are willing to give us a piece of your sweet ass I will end up with an smile on my face (swallowing is mandatory and included in most international treaties - such as the Geneva treaty - , but you all knew that, right?)

- True love. Whoever said I need true love? I love myself and that is what it counts. Truly. If I am going to define who I am based on whether I am loved or not then I am putting my destiny in other hands…no sir, I don’t boogie. I really don’t need love, because I am self-sufficient. I know it sounds like “oh this guy will change his mind when he finds his real love” but I would rather recommend you to go out and smell the roses.

- Financial support. I am not even going to begin with that. I paid my whole high-school and college tuition by myself. I am not some misbehaved kid who can not clean his own ass. Trust me, I know how to make money and it will stay that way.

So…as long as I don’t want children I don’t see the point in getting into a commited relationship, and neither does many many many other men.

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Names have been changed and omitted.

Some Guy's Diary Entry # 1: Marry No More

Tue Feb 5, 2008

12:58 PM GMT
Marry no more

Ol’ blue eyes and his “love and marry” song couldn’t be more wrong if it was written during the current state of affairs, as the new Ego society triumphally walks over religion and the family as we know it. Tradition is now replaced by Convenience, in a world were we literally sleep with someone who tomorrow could be our worst enemy, and provisions, signed like letters of attorneys, must be made beforehand to avoid future issues, stripping the magic of “till death do us apart”.

Yesterday I called my mother. She told her that she had my kid brother and his girlfriend for lunch. My kid brother is 24, and if memory serves so is his girlfriend. They have beng going out since they were both 15. He works in the military and owns a small apartment, and she is currently on a waiting list for an already approved government post.

Anything missing on that picture? Nope, nothing is missing, as she only wants to marry after she gets her government post (which could be in a different estate) and my brother does not seen to want to marry at all. I can hardly find a better example of the new members of the Ego society.

(By the way, you may want to start sharpening your knives and unscrewing your kitchen furniture, as I guess by the end of this entry some of you will want to throw everything you got at me. Don’t believe so? Just wait and see).

Yesterday night I also talked to a friend of my elder brother. She is in her early 40s, with a 15yo kid. I would like to tell you that she is considering divorcing her husband, but the guy she is living with - father of the baby and co-owner of their house – is not her husband. They never married. In more than 15 years (the age of the kid + some time of relationship previous to that) they never considered marriage, and now she wants to leave. I guess part of the reason for her living is the fact that the guy never wanted to marry.

She could walk away, and she was asking me how she could “ask him to leave”. Well, you see, he also owns the house, so I had to read yesterday’s newspaper for her: Men no longer have to give their seats to women. We are in an equal society, so if she wants the house she will have to wrestle the guy for it, and I think that is right.

So she is unhappy, and I simply advice her that if her happiness is more important than the house, she better leave the place and sell it in common agreement. I can tell you her greed will be stronger than her desire of freedom and she will stick within the house, living with the guy, until is sold.

I discussed this with my 60+ years old mother who agreed that now, with a more open society and all the rights (specially children’s) preserved no matter the parents are married or not there is little point in marriage itself.



And here I am, yours truly, considering marriage myself…is hard to know what to do and what is the right thing to do…I am scare shitless because I do not want to lose Lori right now, but I am not sure what is the best thing to do…

…anyways, just thinking aloud.

Names have been omitted and changed.

Can the American Taxpayer Afford this Tab?

According to Zhu Min, deputy governor of the people's Bank of China the U.S. government has a debt problem.

How to Piss off MRA's and Feminist

feminism and masculism by their very names are sexist ideologies, which of course fails to register with every manhater or womanhater, a.k.a. misandrist or misogynist. If women and men really wanted equality they would have named their movements one term, egalitarianism, but of course this is not the case. One of feminism’s goals is to bring down the patriarchy. One of masculism’s goals is to bring down the matriarchy?

It is obvious that humans really feel that one sex must dominate the other. Are we truly no better than animals when it comes to this point? Or it is are need to subjugate everything in our environment not like us what makes us humans?

Poor, Downtrodden, Single mom, Learned Nothing

In this society, girls grow up without their father because their mom divorces their dad (women file 70% of divorces) or mom had a one night stand, etc. Young girl misses her father's love, tries to find it with a young high school or middle school boyfriend gets knocked up has a kid at 16 or an abortion. Her teenage boyfriend vanishes once he hears about the pregnancy. Her mom screams and yells at her for being so stupid. “Why did you not use a condom?” Her reply, “ He said it didn’t feel good?” In reality she wanted to feel him inside her. She wanted a deep, life-long connection with her first love.

This young girl has grown up fast, and now believes that she can't trust men because they are all evil, irresponsible, cheaters and want a woman for only one thing just like her mom told her.

She gets some crummy job and government assistance that gives her enough money for her kid(s) and a few niceties. She wants more than what life is currently offering her .

The only guys that seem to want to go out with her now want her for her government housing, welfare checks, and to use her car if she has one. She’s tired of being poor. If guys only want her for one thing she’s going to give to them, but they are going to pay and pay a lot. She decides to work the pole or work a lot of men’s poles. She’s gets tired of the game. What she really needs is a guy who can take of her?

Who’s going to save her from her life? Are you going to play capatain after she tells you her sob story?

Sure, she’s hot and had a tough life but, she thinks the world owes her something and she let some other guy plant a seed in her womb before you. Thanks, but no thanks. Women, always tell men ,"to keep it in your pants if you don’t want a baby.” Well, did she?

Male Priviledge, really?

Fem-supremacists feel that it is their time to rule. Why would a feminist help an oppressor (male)?

When we have male privilege: women taking men's last names when marrying (I’ll take my wife’s name provided she wants to become the breadwinner, sign up for the draft, be my protector, etc.). Where are the female takers of these responsibilities?


Men ogling women ( Women don't ogle men). It’s called lust and without lust no one of us would be here.


Most managers are men (men don't take maternity leave or become stay at home dads generally after entering the work force). Men who have been on the job longer have more experience and generally due to said experience make better managers.

Do women want a stay at home dad or working man?


Men are offered higher pay for the same work (men could be better at the job). Oh no, that couldn’t be feminist say “, men are idiots. Even the commercials show us that way.

(Men could be more motivated at work because women like rich men).



Ability to commit rape and sexual assault (last time I checked men are sexually assaulted by women 70% of the time).



I’ve been groped, had my testicles stopped on by a female bully, and sexually assaulted on two occasions by women.


Female Victims are blamed for being victimized (a man mugged or murdered in a bad neighborhood he doesn't live in will be blamed for being victimized). Having heard stories of violence in certain neighborhoods men generally avoid them. Maybe women could learn from this and cover up. Men don’t scream I want liberation; the ability to walk in bad neighborhoods and not get mugged.



Women are more likely to be pressured to care for the sick or the elderly relatives than their male counterparts (would women rather work and pay for the care of the sick or elderly relative?).


One realizes so called male privilege is really only a set of different responsibilities once you cut through the chaff of the fem-supremacist victim game.

fem-supremacists wish lists

Here are couple of fem-supremacist wish lists:

A Young Feminist's Wish List



Eliminate funding for abstinence-only-until-marriage programs.


Abstinence obviously isn't a worthy goal in a society where teenage birth rates are the highest in all developed nations.



Understand the right to choose is “simply about women’s freedom” – and that’s non-negotiable.


The right to choose = the right to murder. A society that values dogs and cats over humans is bound to produce more broken families and violence. How does our society place the value of dogs and cats over human life? Are dogs and cats owners encouraged to give their cats or dogs abortions.

Top 25 Items On Our Feminist Wish List

1.That men wouldn’t say “Hey, sexy” to us when we’re walking down the street. They can say hi to our faces, not to our asses.

I don't mean to sound mean but some women do look better from behind. So get over it.


4.That men didn’t think periods were gross.

Role reversal should be applied on this wish. So do women generally find a bleeding penis attractive?



5.That women earned $1.00 to the $1.00.

Women choose social work over being a plumber and generally work less overtime unless they are a single mom (read somewhere half of all single moms have two jobs).


9.That ladies with big, important jobs—like politicians and CEOs—weren’t judged by their looks more than their talent. (Actually, we wish that were true for women with all jobs.)

To be judged by your talent means to be judged and valued for your income. I thought women didn't like male gold diggers.



13. That a 30-year-old unmarried woman without a boyfriend isn’t automatically considered to be “desperate.”


The tick-tock of the biological clock is an unwelcome reminder.



15.That clothing companies made more clothes and accessories for plus-size women.

If clothing companies did this they would be encouraging women to stay at an unhealthy weight which would decrease their lifespan, mating options, quality of life, and leave them susceptible to various obesity related diseases.


16.That condoms, diaphragms, the Pill, RU-486 and other birth control were cheaper.

The manufactures of these forms of birth control and abortion are giving you the hint that if you can't afford our products you shouldn't be having sex because you can't afford a child.


18.That transgendered and transsexual folks weren’t considered freaks.

One should be male or female not both. What, should we strive for asexual reproduction next? To be transgendered is to deny and lie about your physiological self.



19.That “Are you on your period?” wouldn’t be a reasonable response to a woman being upset or angry about something.







20.That deadbeat dads who neglect their kids are taken to task and single moms don’t have to struggle so much.

Women are once again innocent victims. Fem-supremacists believe it is o.k. for them to be dead beat parents. They condone and encourage baby slaughter as a woman's "freedom" issue. Dead beat dads are the most evil people in the world. Dead beat dads may indeed be evil people or they could be a man who couldn't afford children and is not able to sign away his parental rights as women can do by simply having an abortion.

(Sidenote: I'm against abortion in all cases with exceptions for ectopic pregnancy or some other complication that may kill the mother.)

The morals of a woman should be questioned if she decides baby slaughter occur simply because it would impede her career plans.


23.That obese people, especially women, weren’t considered lazy, stupid, slovenly or unfit to be the Surgeon General of the United States.

How does one get fat if one is not disciplined or lazy?

Only 3-5% of people have a thyroid condition or some other condition that slows down metabolism. Women on birth control, bi-polar medication, etc, put on weight as a side effect and such women should not considered due to age(women on birth control too young to hold such an important post) or their psychological condition.


Some comments from the article below:



that being a ‘feminist’ would stop being synonymous with:

*butch lesbian

*man-hater

*wanting to be superior, not equal

*hating pink, dresses, or anything ‘feminine’

*bra-burning

*hairy legs/arm pits

*radicalism

*femiNazi

*anger



The truth hurts and is so obvious.



26. That someone will come up with more effective treatments for eating disorders.

27. That people will stop suffering from eating disorders.


Put the second plate down and drink more water. Stop looking at magazines with stick thin models. Problem solved.




that choosing a career over a having children wouldn’t elicit gasps from everyone. it’s totally socially acceptable for a man to put off having kids to advance a career but for a woman it’s called selfish!


oh, and that i could see ads with men pushing around vacuums and women cooking burgers on the grill



my MOM and SISTER do that all the time! I’ll be cranky because of stuff like, i worked all day, i have a headache, etc. I just want to relax and be myself and they’re annoying me so i snap back. the first thing they say it “are you on your period or something?” i HATE that with a fiery passion.



It also might be nice if a woman’s sexuality was not some kind of judgement of her character. A woman who chooses to have many lovers or who chooses none has nothing wrong with her, and it sure doesn’t say much about her except as a statement of her personal preferences.

Women's bodies are more susceptible to STD's. It is in a man's best interest to avoid women with STD's. Promiscuous women have the most STD's, so a woman's character should be judged by how many lovers she has. The more lovers a woman has the higher the chance of paternity fraud.




I love this site.

Yesterday I was bored at work so I started reading some of the pages on http://www.badassoftheweek.com and was so stoked about the article on Amelia Earhart that I made a facebook comment about her pure awesomeness.

And what comments do I get back…I should have anticipated this but after leaving high school I had forgotten some of the less endearing qualitues of some of my friends.

Here is some of what was said:

“Evil Blood-sucking she witch”
“eww Rikki I didn’t know you were a feminist”
“i was too busy being an anti-feminist with you (to the first commenter) that i couldn’t care less about rikki’s views. UNTIL NOW!”

Which reminded me of something these girls (thats right GIRLS!) said to me one day last year about how I would “never get a man because NOBODY likes a feminist bitch!”

Worst thing is that these girls are some of the most capable, intelligent people I know who have decided to give up all the opportunities they could have because they could never be associated with feminism.

So basically my wishlist is just for acceptance. Because as far as we have come way too many people who associate with feminism are seen as eternal spinsters and the spawn of the devil.

IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK TO BE CONSIDERED AN EQUAL?


Fem-supremacists have traditionally demonized men and garnered more rights and protections for women at the expense of men. So to men fem-supremacists should be seen as spawn of the devil.

I want to see feminist in a positive light but I cannot name one thing that feminist have done to make life better for men. I ask feminist to please give me a benefit of feminism for men?